The Voice never lies

This month, we explore the healing power of the Voice. In his book Sound Medicine, Wayne Perry tells us that our voice reflects our true feelings. When we lose the discipline of our thoughts and emotions, our voice tells the story.

Yesterday, we looked briefly at several vocal qualities that can be used to evaluate the emotional state of the speaker. When a speaker seeks to conceal his/her emotions, his voice gives him away. Three aspects, in particular, play a part in giving away our true feelings; Pitch, Volume, and Meter.

The next time you are in the presence of someone who is feeling happy and enthusiastic, pay attention to these qualities of the voice. Generally, enthusiasm causes the pitch of our voice to rise. When we are excited, we speak quickly, when we are angry, we raise our volume.

Paying attention to these three vocal qualities when they speak to us, can help us to discern the true nature of their feelings. Similarly, by monitoring our own vocal qualities and taking note of the circumstances (feelings) that cause our qualities to change, we can learn much. This increased awareness helps us to recapture control of an emotional situation run amock.

The following exercise is adapted from Perry’s book, Sound Medicine.

This exercise works best if you record your voice while speaking about something you have recently done that is important to you. After recording yourself talking for approximately 5 minutes, listen to the recording.

Pay attention to the pitch of your voice, does it rise and fall naturally as you speak? Does your pitch sound natural to you? Do you notice any feelings that may be influencing your pitch or tone?

Listen again, evaluate your talking speed. Do you speak with a normal cadence? Do you speak too quickly? Slow and deliberate?

Next, talk for about 5 minutes about something painful, again recording your voice. Now listen back to the recording and listen for the same vocal qualities? Do you notice the difference in your voice? Is your speech pattern the same in both circumstances or do you notice differences in your various vocal characteristics.

Try this exercise a few times, try on some different topics, different feelings and record your voice. Listen back to the recording and note the varioyus changes in your voice each time. What have you ntoicved? Be sure to tell me what you learn!

Sound Medicine – Wayne Perry

Learning to distinguish between these subtle textures can provide a wealth of information about your state of mind. Your voice doesn’t lie, it tells all.

Do you think this exercise is helpful? How can you apply it to your intimate and work relationships?

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